Before you talk about keeping a busy man interested, you must have been in a relationship with him or have been close friends with him and seek ways on how to keep him interested in the relationship or friendship because he is always busy with work and you don’t want to do things that will bring the relationship to an end. Below are 7 sure steps to help you keep him interested:
#1. Ask him why he loves you and maintain the glow:
Before he met you, or as he got to know you more there are certain features and qualities he saw in you which made him pick interest in you in the first place. Get to know what he saw. You can ask him during some good conversation with him. These features are what I call Points of Attraction. The reason couples rise for a divorce is because the point of attraction is gone, and they see no need to keep being together. And people are attracted to others for different reasons. In other words, one sure way to keep the relationship and your man interested despite his busy schedule is to enhance the point of attraction.
When you seek to maintain the points of attraction, you are not losing yourself. Rather you are sacrificing for the relationship. When you maintain them, the relationship will get even better.
So get to know the points of attraction, don’t assume you know, you should ask him. He could be seeing what you are not seeing. Add confidence to whatever he says and maintain and improve the glow.
Get on personal development and self-care, and build the kind of body and a mental attitude you love. Though he said he loves you for being a kind of person, you shouldn’t just stay there, keep improving yourself daily. For there are so many other treasures in you that when he finds them, he will appreciate you the more.
#2. Schedule times for quality communication occasionally:
Show me a dead relationship and I will show you couples who stop communicating. Don’t sacrifice communication on the fact that he is always busy. Everyone is always busy with one thing or the other, they make time for things they love. Times for communication are not just times to gist and crack jokes. Those times are important for discussing the past, present, and future, by these you build bonds. A busy man may not have the time to talk about unnecessary matters but if it’s about important things that will build the relationship he wouldn’t mind sacrificing a little more for the relationship. You are planning to spend the rest of your life with him? There are certain things you should talk about. Below is a list:
- Do we agree on the division of labor in our house?
- Do you want to save a lot early on, or save up in bursts for things like a vacation or a new TV?
- What’s your take on vacations, and how often would you like to take them?
- How do you imagine spending the holidays?
- How do you expect to get sexual needs met if I’m not meeting them?
- How do you expect to cope with our sexual ebbs and flows?
- How do you see kids fitting into our life?
- What if we’re not able to have biological children?
- Would you want separate bank accounts, or to share all assets?
Check out the full list here.
You can choose to talk about one matter each day. Discuss with him how best you should communicate daily, what time, and how long. Because he is busy, he will have a schedule and times that could be free. The time should also be convenient for you too. Talk about your area of interest and his area of interest. You should get to know each other better every day.
#3. Respect His Boundaries:
This includes likes, dislikes, values, beliefs, and dos and don’ts. It also includes professional boundaries. You already know he is a busy man, great. He could have daily, weekly, monthly and yearly targets he wants to meet, you shouldn’t expect him to leave his job and focus on you. You should understand him when you call and he couldn’t pick up because he is in a meeting. You shouldn’t start acting suspiciously when you see him work with his female colleagues.
You should bear in mind he had been busy before he met you, instead of finding ways to take his eyes off his career to you, find ways to help him improve and be better at what he does. It could help him save some time and spend them with you.
#4. Get Busy:
Get this formula: Busy Man + Busy Woman = Great Relationship. In other words, to connect more with a busy person, to keep a busy man interested, get busy. This way you can relate more with him, and you have more interests to talk about. Where there is an imbalance the equation will be affected.
- Keep up with what you love:
The reason your man is busy is because he is doing what he loves. If he doesn’t enjoy what he is doing, he won’t let it occupy him. Allow his vibes to inspire you, and get into doing something you love. And do it with a purpose and vision.
- Set your daily targets:
This is one thing that will keep you up all night, and keep you busy. You should have daily, weekly, monthly and yearly goals. You should have a vision you are looking to and a mission. Write it down and run with it. Set out times for retreat and review to reflect on what you have done and how to continue.
- Commit to self-development:
Read books that will help you improve. And get better at what you do. This is not just about your career but your person as a whole. Get to know how better you can be as a friend. This will improve your friendship.
When you don’t commit yourself to your goals and have interesting things to do, over time, you would assume your life is boring and will always seek after him for your happiness. When you become extremely dependent on him, he might begin to consider you a burden.
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#5. Plan and build together:
When you spend time together, set goals together, individual and collective goals. Have a vision you run towards, encourage and help each other get up when they are down. Set up a reward system too. It will encourage you to achieve more. Plan, build, and celebrate together. This way you have a lot to do together.
Building and planning together will help you both achieve the following:
- This will help you feel like you are part of each other’s life.
- It will help eliminate jealousy
- Friendship is built because in planning and building together, close ties are built.
- Trust is built because both of you can talk about your future and help each other overcome challenges.
- Both of you will learn to forsake the past and cleave to the future. This is part of what makes life interesting.
- You keep him interested because you help him get better at what his doing, achieve more goals and walk through the challenges.
#6. Avoid nagging/complaining:
The fact he is busy means you don’t have much time to spend together. So don’t spend the limited time you have together complaining. Make the little moments with him beautiful. He should be at work and miss you so bad. The following will help you achieve this:
- Be more understanding:
Where he has done something wrong to you, learn to be more understanding. You may have your perspective which may be a true perspective. Try to see why the other person did what he did, don’t assume, get to know why by asking. This will build the relationship better. He could be acting or reacting strangely because of his past relationship. This understanding of each other is very important.
- Talk Instead Of Yelling:
Instead of yelling at him, talk. Many times, when a person is angry, they raise their voices. It will be more appropriate if you sit and talk things out. When you yell, things are not being talked out.
#7. Don’t Hold Back Compliments:
Men love to be praised especially in front of their friends and minors. Compliment his prowess, his looks, and every little gem in him. He will feel appreciated and happier with you.
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In conclusion, go for it, sweetheart. Keep your man interested and make his life more interesting.
She is a romance writer, blogger and love expert. She believes the world would be a better place if divorce rate is reduced to the barest minimum and homes are of happier marriages. She enjoys reading, writing and helping people live a more fulfilled life. And one of her favorite quotes is, ”What is love if it isn’t for the bad times too?”.
